Call to Action: San Bruno Fire

Updated 9.14.10 8:20 AM PST: Here is a list of recommended organizations you may wish to support with your clothing and toiletry donations. These organizations work everyday to fight poverty and homelessness in San Mateo,  Santa Clara, and San Francisco counties.

Updated 9.13.10 4:06 PM PST: For details on the donations we have received thus far, please check out this post. Thank you to our drop bin partners, Natural ResourcesJunior Gym, andCubes and Crayons for supporting this drive. Please check them out and support local family friendly business!

Please also note, although we can no longer accept clothing and other supplies, we will continue to accept ongoing diaper/pull ups donations for our diaper bank at the above establishments.

Updated 9.13.10 3:14 PM PST: Due to overwhelming response this weekend we are halting the donation drive effective immediately. We will post details shortly. Thank you all for your support!

Updated 9.11.10 6:30pm PST: We are currently assessing the most direct and effective distribution channel of HAMO donations to families of the San Bruno fire. We share many of our supporters’ concerns about donated items possibly not being offered to families, and we are doing our due diligence to ensure this is not the case. We will keep you updated with details in the upcoming days. Thanks for supporting this drive!

Updated 9.10.10 6pm PST: Just heard word that the Rec Center is currently directing donations to the local Salvation Army. Check out City of San Bruno’s website for up to date information to donate directly in San Bruno.

Up to date information can also be found on ABC7.

Updated: 9.10.10 Noon PST – Christine from Bayview just dropped of 6000 diapers to the Rec Ctr. When the volunteers heard we had Size 5 they ran to the truck!

HAMO diapers and other essentials are currently en route to the San Bruno Recreation Center and two local churches that are sheltering victims of the San Bruno fire. We are partnering up with our friends from the Bayview Mission to get these items to San Bruno residents this morning.

How YOU CAN HELP:

We’re hosting a mini donation drive in the immediate San Francisco area through September 20th.

Items we are collecting:

  • Diapers and Pull Ups (all sizes) – high need
  • New baby wipes
  • New underwear (children, women, men)
  • Baby formula
  • Gently used, freshly laundered children’s clothing (ages 0-5 especially) Please ONLY donate clothing items that you would use personally for yourself or your family. No stains or rips, please.

Items no longer needed Updated 9.11.10:

  • Travel toiletries
  • Towels
  • Women and men’s clothing
  • Feminine hygiene products

Drop off donations c/o HAMO at:

Natural Resources: 1367 Valencia St. (at 25th St.), SAN FRANCISCO, CA 94110 (Hours of Operation: Mon-Thurs 11-7 Fri & Sat 11-6 Sun 11-5)

Junior Gym ~ 101 South B Street, SAN MATEO, CA 94401 (Hours of Operation vary. Refer to online schedule for hours)

Cubes & Crayons ~ 154 E. Dana Street MOUNTAIN VIEW 94309 (Hours of Operation vary.  C&C is open M-F ONLY. Refer to online schedule for hours.)

 

HAMO Contact: lisa (at) helpamotherout.org

You Can Help Stop the Shackling of Pregnant Inmates

Did you know that since 2005, it is illegal in California to shackle pregnant inmates while they are being transported to the hospital while in labor?

But did you know that in other instances, shackling of pregnant inmates is still legal?

According to The Guardian, ten U.S. states currently have shackling laws on the books (California, Colorado, Illinois, New Mexico, New York, Texas, Vermont, Washington, West Virginia and Pennsylvania).

California Legislation

In 2005, CA legislation was enacted with AB 478 (Lieber). As Salon.com previously wrote, this legislation states that no prisoner:

“shall not be shackled by the wrists, ankles, or both during labor, including during transport to the hospital, during delivery, and while in recovery after giving birth.”

Although the law has been in effect for some time, recently it has become evident that not all correctional officers are abiding by it in the jails and prisons across the state.

According to California NOW, our Golden State currently has the distinction of having the largest female inmate population of any state.

AB 1900 (Skinner)

New legislation is currently being considered to amend the 2005 law, enter AB 1900 (Skinner). If passed by the California legislature, the bill will prohibit shackling of pregnant women in county jails, state prisons and juvenile facilities at any time unless the woman presents a danger to herself or others.

You can peruse the documents related to this bill here.

Per Karen Shain, Policy Director at Legal Services for Prisoners with Children, a legal advocacy group based in San Francisco:

The bill comes out of the personal experience of a young mother who was incarcerated at Contra Costa County Jail during the bulk of her pregnancy.  She was shackled every time she went to court–oftentimes with a belly shackle and attached to a male prisoner.  She was also shackled at the hospital where she was admitted with pre-eclampsia–she was shackled to the bed, having to call a guard every time she needed to go to the bathroom.  Then she was attached to a large chain that would give her enough distance to be able to use a commode, but not enough to actually use the bathroom in her room!  While it is illegal for pregnant women to be shackled when going to the hospital when in labor, all other shackling of pregnant women is currently legal in California.

The bill will require that Corrections Standards Authority (CSA) set uniform standards across the State of California for how incarcerated pregnant women may be restrained.

As of August 12, 2010 the bill has passed the house and made it’s way to the senate, having been amended and a third reading has been ordered.

The HAMO Connection

Our partner agency Family, Maternal and Child Health Programs of Contra Costa county has a program, Lift Every Voice, that has been an integral part of raising awareness of this issue and advocating for this piece of legislation.

We here at HAMO believe that every baby matters and that every mother, regardless of her current status, deserves access to appropriate prenatal and postpartum care. This is a human rights issue, not only for the expectant mother, but also for the child she is carrying.

How You Can Help

1) Send a letter of support for AB 1900 to Nancy Skinner’s office in Sacramento, as well as a copy to your CA State Senator, (updated 8/18/10) and Governor Schwarzenegger.

Updated 8/18/10: The ACLU of Northern California has a handy tool for you to contact Governor Schwarzenegger. Find it by clicking here.

2) Spread the word to your network. Blog, Tweet, and Facebook it. Talk about it with your friends.

Any reporters reading this? If you email me I would be happy to put you in touch with our sources: lisa at helpamotherout dotorg.

We’d love to hear your thoughts on this issue. Had you heard about shackling pregnant women inmates previously? If you reside outside California, do you know your state’s policy on addressing this practice?

Image from: http://blogs.pitch.com/plog/2007/08/lately_western_missouri_seems.php

No Butt Left Behind?

This is a repost of my guest post for Poverty Insights earlier this week. I’m thrilled to be at the BlogHer conference today soaking up the information and bloggy energy. Of course, I’m also there to talk about diapers. Are you there too? Please stop by the Huggies Every Little Bottom booth (#2713) in the Expo Hall and say hi! Would love to meet you!

Any parent will tell you it is a terrible inconvenience to run out to the drugstore late at night because you ran out of diapers. But this occasional inconvenience is nothing compared to the crisis unfolding across the nation for families who are unable to provide their children with an adequate supply of diapers.

The Social Safety Net Does Not Include Diapers

For qualifying households, safety net programs such as the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP) and the Women, Infants, and Children program (WIC) help supplement food, including infant formula. Unfortunately, no state or federal safety net program addresses the basic need of diapers.

It can take an average of $1,100 a year to adequately diaper a baby. And while cloth diapers are an option for more affluent households that are capable of maintaining them– the truth of the matter is that there exists a huge diaper divide with families living in crisis. Most families living in poverty lack access to affordable laundering facilities, as well as the start up costs associated with cloth diapering.

The Great Recession has amplified the numbers of families who are unable to meet this basic need. Even during boom times, families in need were forced to make impossible choices for their children; having to choose between items like food, medicine, diapers, or utility bills. “Diapers are a must-have. You can’t skip them like you can breakfast,” explained one struggling California mother.

Keeping Children Healthy, Helping Families Become Self Sufficient

Every baby deserves a clean diaper. Children left for extended periods of time in dirty diapers are at a higher risk for health problems including severe diaper rash, urinary tract infections, jaundice, and even staph infections.  Babies left in soiled diapers are more likely to cry from discomfort, which can increase caregiver stress and parental depression. In extreme cases, this type of stress on a family unit may lead to child neglect and abuse.

Lacking a steady access to diapers may also result in a family’s inability to participate in childcare programs, school, and even regular employment. We know that early childhood learning and development are critical to at-risk children.

The majority of early care and education programs, including free or subsidized programs like Early Head Start, require parents to provide disposable diapers prior to entering the program. If a caregiver is unable to meet this requirement, they may not be able to participate in regular employment or job training programs – essential factors in a family’s ability to be self sufficient.

The Long View: Changing Public Policy

The Diaper Bank, a non profit that centralizes fundraising for and distribution of free diapers to poor families in Connecticut distributes over 200,000 diapers per month to human service agencies. In recent years several grassroots organizations have sprouted up across the country in order to address this issue at local levels, primarily through charitable giving.

Recently Kimberley-Clark, a major diaper manufacturer, launched a campaign to address this issue from a commercial stand point. The number of families who have been helped by these collective efforts is astounding and truly awesome.

However inspiring these efforts are, they are a drop in the bucket in terms of addressing diaper needs at the national level. Charitable giving is, at best, a short term solution. In the long term it is essential for advocates of women and children, as well as advocates working to end hunger, poverty, and homelessness, to raise awareness and collectively advocate for the addition of diapers and other hygiene items in the safety net.

The addition of diapers must be codified into the fabric of social safety net programs. If we can ensure that a baby cries less, reduce caregiver stress, and enable families to achieve self sufficiency, we can change the world. Even with something as basic as diapers.

BlogHer

Bloggers take Manhattan?

A few HAMO peeps and friends will be there to join the masses who are descending onto Midtown Manhattan for the annual BlogHer conference.

Are you going?

We would love to meet you!

Please stop by the Huggies Every Little Bottom booth (#2713) in the Expo Hall and say hi!

I’ll be at the booth Friday 12-2pm then Saturday 2-4pm.

Kim will be at the booth both Friday and Saturday 12-2pm.

You can follow our adventures via Twitter:

Lisa: @helpamotherout

Kim: @kimtracyprince

In addition to Kim, Every Little Bottom Blog Ambassadors will be working the booth and talking diapers:

@jennyonthespot @rookieheather @SmartyPantsMama @Mommywords @rookiemoms @rookiewhitney @JessicAPISS

I’m grateful to  Huggies’ Every Little Bottom campaign for sponsoring HAMO’s presence at BlogHer.

San Diego: Are You Going To Cruise for the Cause?

We’re so grateful to Xavier the X-Man for including our cause in his annual benefit car show in San Diego. A portion of the proceeds from T Shirt sales, as well as a portion of the day’s sales from our friends at Pachuca Cosmetics, will benefit our local diaper program.  Shout out to Alicia for making the magic happen!

MAGIC 92.5 presents Xavier The X-Man’s 8th Annual Cruise for the Cause Blood & Bone Marrow Drive Car Show on Saturday, August 14th at Otay Ranch Town Center from 10a to 3p. Stop by to donate blood and get on the National Bone Marrow registry. Together we can save lives and help kids with cancer.

“Hey it’s Xavier The X-Man, I personally want to invite each and every one of you to the 8th Annual Cruise for the Cause Blood & Bone Marrow Drive Car Show at Otay Ranch Town Center inChula Vista, CA. We’re taking over the middle of the mall and the huge walk way on the side of the mall. This year makes me more excited than others because not only are we going to have more room for this great event but hopefully more people can participate and donate blood with the easy access of the venue. Remember, you don’t need to be into cars to help save a life. We are inviting every one to join us … Classic carsLowridersHot RodsTuners, Bikes, Customs, SUV’s, TrucksandMotorcycles. Please spread the word about this years The X-Man’s Cruise from the Cause Car Show, I really need your help to make this a success.

Part of the proceeds will benefit Help A Mother Out.org, helping homeless mothers with kids & Emilo Nares Foundation, helping children with Cancer.

http://www.helpamotherout.org/

http://www.emilionaresfoundation.org/

I hope to see everyone there… including past participants and I would like to encourage other groups to come out as well as more families and companies. Til next time ~ Xavier The X-Man

Party on Twitter

To fire up the pre-BlogHer buzz and get more people informed about what we’re doing with Every Little Bottom, the other ambassadors and I will host two twitter parties tonight at 9pm ET and 9pm PT.  Tune in to both to see who does a better job.  

I’m at @kimtracyprince and I’ll bet you anything @helpamotherout will be there, too.    Just follow the #elb Twitter stream to see what’s up and join in.  We’ll be talking about diapers, BlogHer, and how you shouldn’t wear a diaper to BlogHer.

The other ambassadors are:

@jennyonthespot @rookieheather @SmartyPantsMama @Mommywords @rookiemoms @rookiewhitney @JessicAPISS

JOIN US ON THE TWEETGRID HERE:  http://is.gd/dN8Gn

We’re on Facebook Causes!

Thanks to long time supporter Sarah A. for suggesting we set up a Cause page on Facebook.

You can join our cause here.

We will continue to primarily use our fan page to stay in touch with you all, but now the nifty Causes application will make it easier for our supporters to give back through the social networking site.

If you’re the type of person who likes to request friends and family donate to charity in honor of your birthday or another special occasion, this is just for YOU!

All donations through Causes are processed through Network for Good by way of Facebook Cause’s application. The donation will go directly into our restricted account, which is administered by our fiscal sponsor, Point.

All funds collected will benefit our diaper program.

A Need for Diapers

This is a guest post from Amanda Winn of the Children’s Network of Solano County, a partner agency in our diaper distribution network. With your support we’re thrilled to provide diapers to needy families of Solano County.

In the summer of 2009, local Family Resource Centers (FRCs) throughout Solano County began commenting that more and more families were coming in looking for assistance with diapers. Staff members began noticing mothers standing outside WalMart and Target asking not for food, but for packages of diapers for their children. We knew the recession was hitting Solano families hard, but we had no idea just how bad things were until we began digging a little deeper.

In a matter of months, the United Way of the Bay AreaAsset Policy Initiative of California, and the Associated Press reported independently of each other that Solano County was one of the most stressed Bay Area counties due to the current economic downturn. An Economic Stress Index created by the Associated Press and published in Contra Costa Times listed Solano as THE most stressed Bay Area County based on local bankruptcy, foreclosure, and unemployment rates.According to the American Community Survey, of all families in Solano County living at or below poverty level, over 80% have children under the age of 18 in the home.

Solano County is home to the Integrated Family Support Initiative (IFSI), a collaborative of public and private agencies that provide in-home support to isolated and at-risk families with children 0-5 years of age in the home. At these meetings, public health nurses, child welfare workers, and local non-profits were all saying the same thing. There were very limited resources available for families who needed diapers. The agencies knew where to turn for cash aid, food assistance, or shelter assistance, but there were no formal supports for diapers. The Family Resource Centers (FRCs), neighborhood-based agencies that provide basic needs and support services to local families, were reporting not only a dramatic spike in the number of families needing support, but a new intensity in the type of services being sought. Families were coming to the FRCs with a host of concerns ranging from basic needs access and unemployment to homelessness and domestic violence. Many times, the same family would walk through the doors of an FRC or be referred to IFSI with many of these issues simultaneously.

As local agencies are being forced to reduce services, limit hours of operation, or close their doors entirely due to local and State-wide budget cuts, families who find themselves in crisis are left with fewer options and available resources. In September of 2009, the Children’s Network began a County-wide diaper drive. Since then, over 21,550 diapers have been collected from a wide-range of individuals and organizations, and we’re still going! The Diaper Drive has been one way the community can come together to help local families feel a little less alone.


Photo courtesy of Children's Network

Support our work to bring diapers to children in Solano County and beyond. Here are three ways you can take action:

  1. Donate Help a Mother Out’s through Network for Good. All proceeds benefit our diaper program, enabling HAMO to bulk purchase diapers.
  2. Donate diapers directly to  Children’s Network of Solano County through their Amazon wishlist.
  3. Local donations can also be made to The Children’s Network. 2320 Courage Drive, Suite 107, Fairfield CA 94533.  (707) 421-7229

Amanda Hopping-Winn is the Community Organization Analyst at the Children’s Network of Solano County. She is a native of the Philadelphia area and has focused her professional career in direct practice and policy advocacy for children and families, especially those with limited incomes.  Amanda received her MSW degree from UC Berkeley before joining the Children’s Network in 2009.  She and her family live in the East Bay and spend most of their free time hiking, frequenting dog parks with their beloved pup, and traveling.

Los Angeles Mission Helps Mothers Out With 42,000 More Diapers

Bloggers (and child) join me at the Los Angeles Mission

Here’s how it happened:

Help a Mother Out was able to give 42,000 Huggies diapers to the Los Angeles Mission’s Anne Douglas Center For Women as part of our collaboration with the Every Little Bottom program.  As the messenger of such great news, I was charged with finding a home for this giant – ahem – load. Our current Los Angeles-area partner agencies didn’t have room for so many diapers all at once, we’re talking pallets and pallets and pallets!  So I branched out.

I remembered coming across the Los Angeles Mission, where the woman who answered the phone many months ago told me about how the Anne Douglas Center hands out 5 diapers a day to mothers who come to the door at 10:30 AM.  That is their daily ration of diapers per child.  Five diapers!  Can you imagine?   The center relies completely on donations.  I called them again a few weeks ago to ask if they had warehouse space for this many diapers.  I spoke with Chaplain Bridget, who blessed me right then and there over the phone and thanked me up and down for thinking of them.

Luckily, it all worked out.  The Los Angeles Mission has a very stableinfrastructure of staff and volunteers already in place.  I am inspiredby what they’ve been able to do and I look forward to learning more from them.  Several staff members, including Barbara, the Director of Operations, were on hand last week when I headed downtown to be present when the diapers arrived.


When we were all set up, we had 2,000 diapers stacked around a table with the HAMO and mission banners on display.  We had TV crews.  We had bloggers.

The women who lugged their strollers up the stairs outside the door (there is a ramp, but for some reason the stairs were the preferred method) were brave enough to come into our little circus area.  They bravely allowed to be photographed and filmed, and talked to us as we scrambled to provide them with the right size diapers for their kids.  I confess.  I felt like an asshole.

There I was, organizing this big presentation of diapers, worried about getting press to attend, worried about getting people to come to receive the diapers, worried about forgetting to take pictures or video or to write down people’s names.  I had chosen my outfit carefully, worried about where to park on skid row, wondered where I would eat lunch.

And there they were.  Homeless, broke, with babies.

Kenya and her two children

True, the publicity, however little the event attracted, will undoubtedly serve the greater good by spreading the message to others.  I hope that more people wake up to the fact that diapers are not covered by public assistance the way food and formula are.  I hope that more people learn about how many moms and dads are affected by what is now such a common worry that it has a name:  diaper need.  One in three.  That’s right, 1 in 3 moms have had to choose between purchasing diapers and paying another crucial household bill like rent or electricity.  Or they could have no money at all.

And now the Anne Douglas Center, which relies solely on donations, has 40,000 more diapers in the closet to give out when a needy parent comes to the door.  And that makes me feel a little better.

View from the Anne Douglas Center

“Ain’t nobody ever thrown me a birthday party.”

The Anne Douglas Center at the Los Angeles Mission serves the homeless community with food, showers, clothing, toys, and more, while also operating a resident rehabilitation program for women addicted to drugs and/or alcohol.  After the diaper handout was over, the bloggers toured the women’s facility and even met some of the residents.  It’s a building full of hope and generosity.  Director Barbara embodied both with great patience as she led us through the halls, recounting tales of women who turned their lives around in those rooms, many of whom had never in their previous hard lives had a birthday party, or remembered the last time they were sober for one.  Group parties here make them break down in tears.

When I get overwhelmed, I think about people like Barbara and the women at the center to remember that there is good news in the world.  The TV interviews I did that day haven’t aired yet, what with the crowded news days full of stories about Mel Gibson, Lindsay Lohan, and BP.  You have to come to places like this blog to learn that it’s not hopeless, that even stuck at your office desk, you too can help.

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Volunteer at the Mommy and Me breakfast on Saturday mornings at the Los Angeles Mission


Hopefully this interview will air soon

[photo credits:  Julia Frey and me]

Bottoms Covered #ELB

We had an incredible community event on Wednesday June 30th, which we put together to celebrate our Every Little Bottom donation from Huggies.

Pictured above is one of our youngest volunteers handing out diapers to Mel S. from WDDC, one of our FIRST partner agencies. Mel is the volunteer coordinator whom we met a little over a year ago. WDDC took 50 cases of diapers on Wednesday. I think they’ll be able to give out more than 6 diapers per mom now.

We had about 8 agencies come by to celebrate the momentous occasion with us. The energy was amazing and everyone pitched it to do their share. It was… very grassroots.

Some of our original agencies were able to come and bring back truck and van loads of diapers (all large sizes!) to stock their shelves for the hot summer months. Moms loaded up their station wagons full of diapers to bring to more agencies.


Photo credit: Wendy Copley (http://wendolonia.com/blog/)

Whitney rallied her crew to join in and keep the diapers moving. Please note the crutches (She broke her foot a few days prior and still drove over to lend a hand!).

Wendy and her son W. came over to help load diapers and document the day. We loaded up her car with diapers to bring back to an east bay agency. Mike and his daughter E. came by and got down to business with the pallet jack. It was so great to see our youngest volunteers really wanting to be there “to help the babies.”

My friend Del helped organize the event and Steve just totally brought it together and made a lot of behind the scenes happen.

We are totally, we mean Totally, indebted to our friends at City-Core Development for donating space to house the diaper donation. Are you looking for office space to lease? Check them out and tell them we sent you 

At the distribution I had a great conversation with a social worker from a newer partner agency on the  peninsula. We were talking about how so many of her clients are struggling with the basics. Parents are working long hours and it literally comes down to paying the utility bill, putting food on the table, or keeping an adequate supply of diapers. She talked about how when she has diapers, which is not too frequent, she can give them to her clients and then they can focus on more solving more pressing issues.

It felt completely awesome to load up the social worker’s car with diapers for her clients. My hope is that we can figure out a way to continue the momentum this windfall donation helped start.

Big Hugs to Huggies for literally covering a whole lot of little bottoms the Bay Area this week. We’re having an amazing time bringing your diapers to moms who really need them!

Check out Wendy’s photos from the day:http://www.flickr.com/photos/wendycopley/sets/72157624272058027/

1 in 3 Moms Struggle With the Diaper Need #ELB

Back in September, HAMO, together with nine other non profits,  received a unique invitation to sit down with Huggies and talk about the diaper issue. This summit, the first of it’s kind, was an amazing opportunity to meet people behind the organizations who have inspired us to continue the HAMO campaign.

The outcomes of this “Diaper Summit”  came to play a large role in the development of a new cause marketing campaign from Huggies called Every Little Bottom.

I know, I know. “Cause marketing” is the current overly used term across the social media landscape. People are *pooped* (ha ha) with the term and frankly I am too. What makes this campaign different, besides the fact you did not need to *vote* anyone in?

Not Your Average “Cute” Cause Marketing Campaign

Don’t let the cute name fool you. This is not your run of the mill marketing campaign. Following the Diaper Summit in September, the Huggies brand commissioned an independent research study focused on the diaper need in America. I stayed up late one night in New Haven and read through theEvery Little Bottom study. You can read the high level findings here [updated July 2, 2010 Download the study]. The study surveyed 1,500 mothers with babies 0-4 in diapers in the U.S. Essentially, the study quantitatively backs up what diaper advocates have been saying for quite some time:

1 in 3 American momstruggle to provide diapers for their baby. Not being able to afford diapers for your baby is not only a physical hardship, but it is emotional. For the baby AND the caregiver. Babies who need diapers suffer more physically and emotionally. They are more likely to show signs of irritation and discomfort, and cry and suffer more from diaper rash. If the caregiver is too distressed from not being able to provide diapers, it can affect their parenting skills, and ultimately, their ability to lead a self sufficient life.

Turning Rhetoric Into Action

What is Huggies doing? Last week they announced they are donating 2.5 million diapers to diaper bank partners in the U.S. and Canada. They have also committed to donating up to 22 million diapers later in the year. This is truly unprecedented.  I’m still trying to get my head around the numbers. Awesome, isn’t it?

From what I’ve seen Huggies is in it for the long haul. I think it is going to take this level of corporate commitment to take this “under the radar” cause to the next level. Partnerships and collaborations are being formed (they’re getting organizations like the Junior League and the Boys and Girls Club involved!). It is going to be wonderful to see it unfold and to see the level of awareness raised in every corner of the country.

Can we all stop donating diapers? NO! Because the need is truly dire and unmet (e.g., The Diaper Bank in New Haven distributes 200,000 diapers EACH MONTH over 3 counties – and it is still not enough!), it’s going to take a lot more than a corporate entity’s deep pockets. It is my hope this donation validates to you the rhetoric we (not to mention countless others) have been going on and on about.  Hopefully it will inspire more of you to remember to that a diaper drive is an easy way to give back to your community – just as a canned food drive, or a toy or book drive. Yes, it is going to take the generosity of corporations and philanthropic groups to move more than a few mountains. But the cause also needs the everyday generosity of individuals to make it sustainable.

Greater San Francisco News

This morning we will begin to distribute our Huggies ELB donation of 200,000 diapers to some very happy agencies. We have a few folks coming to help and will be sure to do a recap of this special day. In the meantime  you may (or may not!) be inclined to follow us on Twitter @helpamotherout for real time updates. And hey – SoCal friends, stay tuned for local news next week. We’re grateful to accept this in kind donation from Huggies on behalf of the families we serve.

Big congrats to mommy blogger in residence Kim Tracy Prince, as well as our friends Whitney and Heather of RookieMoms.com for signing on to become official ELB Blogger Ambassadors. These women, along with a great many others, have shown HAMO such kindness in our grassroots effort. We’re excited to see them play a role in this new venture.

The Diaper Divide

Disposable Diaper Brouhaha

Recently we’ve noticed a lot of interwebz discussion about disposable diapers vs. cloth diapers. Specifically, the question keeps coming up as to why needy families are not able to use cloth diapers. It is a valid question. In fact, it seems just about every time we get any kind of coverage this is one of the first questions to come up.

Previously we’ve addressed the topic briefly in our Diapers 101 post, but we thought it might be helpful to publish a perspective that explains the hurdles faced both by providers of free diapers and the recipient families.

Background

This past Earth Day an article came out in the Connecticut Post mentioning The Diaper Bank, founded by our friend and advisory board member Joanne Goldblum. The Diaper Bank distributes thousands (to the tune of 200,000 diapers  EACH month) to low income families across three CT counties.

Here is an excerpt from the article:

On the same day that folks marked Earth Day, a press release landed in one of my editors’ e-mail accounts. It was for a fundraiser for the Diaper Bank of Connecticut, which distributes thousands of diapers a year to low-income folks who can’t afford them for their babies. One has to wish, at a time of raised environmental awareness, why the Diaper Bank has yet to distribute cloth ones that can be laundered and recycled, too.

Well off or not, isn’t it everybody’s responsibility to pitch in and do their part to help the environment?

The Response

Dear Ms. Brown,

I just read your article, Helping to Save the Environment One Diaper at a Time with great interest.

I hope you will be pleased to find out that we do offer cloth diapers to clients. The problem is that no one will take them. Actually, we just sent bags of cloth diapers to Haiti because they had been sitting in our warehouse for so long. I wish you had called us for comment prior to publishing your article so we could have discussed this because we take environmental concerns very seriously.

The reason cloth diapers are unpopular among our clients is that families in poverty cannot afford and do not have access to washing and drying facilities. Hanging diapers out on the line in an urban setting is not realistic. Many landlords forbid it or provide no outdoor space or security to make it practicable. Furthermore, most childcare centers require parents to provide disposable diapers. Furthermore, most people living in poverty do not have affordable access to washing facilities.  Also, most laundramats do not allow people to wash diapers in thier machines. So while it is easy for wealthy families who control their own homes and childcare to use cloth, poor families are not so free to do as they might prefer.

In general we believe that the issue of disposable diapers and their environmental impact is a national topic that requires changing the conditions that make it impractical for many poor families to use cloth. This issue is not going to be resolved by not providing babies with what they need.  So even though cloth or recycled diapers may be better for the environment, we don’t think the place to make that argument is in response to poor children.

As for recycled diapers the cost, $23 a week, is considerably more than we pay for diapers since we buy diapers wholesale directly from a manufacturer. So switching to the recycled diapers would mean we serve far fewer poor children.

I will contact the company you spotlighted to see if they are interested in working with us to get the diapers they distribute to families in need- Wouldn’t it be wonderful if they were willing to work with us at a reduced cost to help poor families help the environment as well? I will tell you how that goes.

We at The Diaper Bank work hard to try to make Connecticut a better place for all children and families, I hope you will support us in that mission.

Please contact me if you would like to discuss this further, my cell phone number is 203-XXX-XXXX.

Joanne Samuel Goldblum

President and Founder , The Diaper Bank

Another Two Cents

This past year we have been very grateful to receive the support from many a cloth diapering mama, as well as from major cloth diaper manufacturer. We’ve even had our friends at Natural Resourcesshow some of our diaper recipients the ropes of cloth diapering basics. These mamas GET the cause and why cloth diapers may not be practical for everyone.

Because this cause is not about whether or not a mom chooses disposable or cloth diapers. Because to have this economic choice is a privilege to those of us who are able to meet the basic needs of our children and families.

What if you didn’t have the means to afford the start up costs of cloth diapering? What if you were living in transition – in a shelter, in your car, on a friend’s couch, doubled up with extended family? What if you could only afford to do your family’s laundry once a month? What if you only had 10 bucks in your pocket until the next payday? What if you finally got your child enrolled in Early Head Start and were required to provide a case of disposable diapers prior to starting the childcare program? The families we serve, through our partner agencies, come to them in crisis. They’re worried about their next meal and whether or not they can afford medicine, enough diapers, or to keep the lights on.

There is room enough in this cause for traditional disposables, eco-friendly disposables,  cloth diapers, AND diaper service companies. There’s room enough for projects like Laundry Love to advocate and address the logistical and financial challenges faced by many families. There’s also room enough to go beyond tangible needs and talk about the deeper issues – stuff like the real status of women; childhood poverty; public policy, urban and rural economic/food deserts.

So What Do You Think?

Is the good old “cloth vs. disposable” (as it relates to the issue of diaper needs) an argument we should continue? Do you know of a groundbreaking cloth diaper service that provides products and services free of charge to low income families? Have you heard of a charitable laundromat owner who helps out working families? We would love to hear your thoughts and relevant information you can share.

If you have NEW cloth diapers (CPSIA seal of approval) and you would like to donate to our cause, we will eventually find a needy bottom for them. Please know our greatest need is disposable diapers, though we currently do have a small agency that has distributed cloth diaper starter kits, thanks to our in kind donors.

If you would like to donate new or gently used cloth diapers, do check out the Cloth Diaper Foundation.

Image from: http://www.flickr.com/photos/pierrotsomepeople/3699129301/

Why Ashton Kutcher Should Have Gone To Yale Law School

A little more than a year ago HAMO started as a one-off drive to bring diapers to homeless families. We had no idea diapers were such a scarce commodity for families in need or that there were organizations such as diaper banks. The number one reason why we decided to let HAMO spread it’s wings was because we felt that it is critical to raise awareness of this issue and advocate for the inclusion of diapers in the safety net. Little did we know at the time that there was already a coalition forming to address this very goal.

On April 30, 2010,  HAMO had the unique opportunity to attend theColloquium on Diaper Rights, Health, Hygiene, and Public Policy, sponsored by The Diaper BankYale Law School, and the law firmWiggin and Dana, LLP.

The working session was really the first of it’s kind, bringing together state and federal government officials, members of several professions (lawyers, doctors, public health, social workers), public relations and industry representatives, academics, as well as advocates from various organizations dedicated to issues concerning women, children, and families.

Organizations represented at the colloquium include the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation (check out their post here), the Annie E. Casey Foundation, the Children’s Defense FundPrevent Child Abuse America, the National Center for Law and Economic JusticeNational Center for Children in PovertySEIUYale School of Public HealthYale Law SchoolThe Diaper Bank of Southern Arizona,Westside Baby, et. al

As you can see from this partial list, HAMO was, by far, the rookie organization of the group. I spent the entire day pretending I was a law student, soaking up information from the incredible discussions.

We started off talking about about the safety net, welfare, well being, and rights. Later, childhood poverty, women’s rights, and public health. We talked about transforming public policy and how crucial collaboration is across disciplines and organizations. We talked about grassroots advocacy, building a support network. During the panel I served on we talked about ways we could engage the public through both new and traditional forms of media Yes, Twitter was discussed. Along with Facebook. And Ashton Kutcher. We ended the day with a discussion on how we can work together to legislate change to include diapers  in the safety net.

My big take away from the day was this: Addressing the immediate crisis and raising awareness is crucial. Working to change the policy is equally important and will require a unified effort not only across state lines but also across digital ones.  If we can do this, we’ll increase opportunities not only for the women, children, and families, but also for our communities.

We want to hear from you. From where you stand, what do you think it is going to take to change the public policy?

Seattle Diaper Drive Results and Wrap Up

We had a great result from our Seattle area diaper drive events – we collected about 10,000 diapersto benefit WestSide Baby in West Seattle and Eastside Baby Corner in Issaquah.  We approached the diaper drive with a true grassroots communication on “How You Can Help” with information on how to host a diaper drive.  My goal here was to get all my friends (and their friends) to reach out to their schools, community organizations, and businesses to collect diapers.  Although I didn’t get lots and lots of participation, my own kids’ schools participated with great results — so I plan to build on this (see below).  In addition, we had a number of great events, all contributing to the overall number with varying degrees of success.  I thought I’d share what we did and how we think we’ll continue our efforts in the Seattle area.

The Official Diaper Drive. We were very fortunate to have three The Little Gym locations (West Seattle, Bellevue, and Issaquah) dedicate their summer Open House events to be diaper drives.   The Little Gym helped to promote the events and each location collected between 850 – 950 diapers.  We had about 40 kids at each location, with most of the attendees being members of The Little Gym.   The day of the event was the first sunny day in 3 weeks, so we think that may have also impacted attendance.  The Little Gym staff did a great job of coordinating efforts and staffing the gyms while we obtained door prizes and goodies, promoted the event in our own networks, and showed up to represent HAMO and our great beneficiaries!  We had Eastside Baby Corner lead the event in Issaquah, WestSide Baby lead the event in West Seattle, and I led the Bellevue event.  This was fun, was great outreach to families, and generated over 2500 diapers.  That being said, we put forth a lot of effort to do this!  Thanks again to our donors:  Booginhead, Deep South Staples, Embrace ActivismLots to Say BabyNew York CupcakesNorth Star Fine CoffeesReUsiesThe Little Gym, andSugar Rush Bakery.

Mommypreneur Event. I organized a Mommypreneur networking event at WestSide Baby on a Thursday evening.  The goal of this event was to promote networking among local Mommypreneurs along with collecting diapers and door prizes for our events.  The turnout for this was very disappointing (big thanks to those who attended including Eastside Baby Corner and to WestSide Baby for hosting and Resourceful HRSteller SolutionsStroller Strides, and ReUsies) but I would definitely try this again as I think it’s a great market to get the word out about HAMO.

Community Outreach. I put together a flier for all my mommy friends on “How You Can Help.”  The flier talked about HAMO and hosting your own diaper drives.  I had one friend and two business groups host diaper drives, generating about 1100 diapers.  I think this is a great way to promote HAMO and gather diapers.

School Events. As part of the community outreach, I suggested that people contact their kids schools or even just individual classrooms to hold a diaper drive.  My son’s kindergarden class alone collected over 300 diapers.  The biggest success, though, was that my daughter’s pre-school,Bellevue Montessori School, made the HAMO diaper drive their spring charity event and collected over 3100 diapers!  My effort for these school events was minimal – I created a flier for the school or teacher and picked up the diapers at the end – and the results were amazing (in my opinion).

My plan going forward is to reach out to all the pre-schools I can find during the September and October timeframe asking them to consider a HAMO diaper drive as a charity event for their school sometime during the school year.  Many of these schools already have some kind of charity drive (i.e. school supplies, canned food, toys) and getting HAMO on their radar early on is important.  The families with pre-school age kids are often still buying diapers or have left overs at home, making it really easy for them to participate.

We are also planning to do The Little Gym events again next year as this was a great partnership with a lot of success!

For more information or to participate in future Seattle area HAMO events, contact me atmichelle@equinoxbusinesslaw.com

Thank You Junior Gym of San Mateo

As part of our Mother’s Day 2010 campaign, our friends at the Junior Gym in San Mateo held a humdinger of a diaper drive.

The drive started with a benefit auction and playdate performance by Andy Z. This guy rocks!

They ended up raising a total of 7,070 diapers in May!

The diapers were delivered to our local parter Shelter Network, which operates several family shelters in the county. As noted on their website, diapers are a high need item.

We are so grateful to Liz P. who put together this amazing community event and enabled San Mateo county’s youngest citizens to give back to their immediate community.

Thanks to all who participated in raising diapers and local community businesses who donated to the silent auction!

Junior Gym is a local family-run small business. If you’re local and have young children, please support our friends!

Seattle Playtime – and diapers galore!

In Seattle, our diaper drive is moving full speed ahead toward a great wrap up!  For our inaugural HAMO event in Seattle, we have taken a slightly different approach – which has also extended our diaper drive into June!  We are supporting two great organizations, WestSide Baby in West Seattle and Eastside Baby Corner in Issaquah.  Both Nancy Woodland (WestSide Baby) and Helen Banks Routon (Eastside Baby Corner) have been a great help, support, and full of creative ideas in helping to make this diaper drive huge – we are shooting for 20,000 diapers!

Our first step was to encourage mini-diaper drives in our communities through our friends, schools, churches, community organizations, and local businesses with a flier on “How You Can Help.”  Friends throughout the area are collecting diapers for us!  Bellevue Montessori School has really supported our efforts by making the HAMO diaper drive their school-wide Spring Charity Event and has collected over 2000 diapers alone (final count still ongoing)!  We cannot thank them enough!

Secondly, we held a little Mommypreneur networking event to collect diapers and door prizes for our big event on June 5.  The Seattle area is teeming with Mommypreneurs who have amazing products and services for families.  Our event generated not only diapers but also door prizes from Stroller Strides SeattleReUsiesSatch & Sol, and Lots 2 Say Baby for our events on June 5! 

Finally, we’re planning our big celebration event for Saturday, June 5. Three The Little Gymlocations (Issaquah, Bellevue and West Seattle) have generously offered to host free playtime from 2-4pm for anyone donating diapers!  We will have goodies from New York Cupcakes and Coffee to a Tea/Sugar Rush Bakery and door prizes galore! 

After The Little Gym, our team will gather at WestSide Baby for a final count and celebration of piles of diapers for needy families!  We’ll keep you posted!

Our team is still gathering diapers and door prizes!  If you’re interested in contributing, contact me atmichelle@equinoxbusinesslaw.com – or join us on June 5!

How Will We Feed the Children?

Yesterday was “Hunger Action Day” in Los Angeles as declared by Hunger Action LA, a group that works “to end hunger and promote healthy eating through community education, outreach, networking, and empowerment of low income people to speak on issues that affect their lives directly.”  As we all know, there are more and more people who are experiencing at least temporary low income, as the economy slides further down and more people lose their jobs.  Despite what the economic pundits are saying about the economy recovering, there are families who just cannot afford to put enough food on the table, let alone eat healthy.

Yes, it’s a time of belt-tightening for the state of California, and for many states.  Yes, there are tough choices to be made.  But what is tougher than the choice a hungry parent must make when the money runs out and she doesn’t have any food?  Or diapers?

When Hunger Action LA staged its rally at Los Angeles City Hall yesterday, they were protesting the budget cuts to emergency food programs, which help low-income families at least feed themselves.  With more people turning to food pantries for help, and less donations pouring in to those charities, help is needed now more than ever, from whatever source is available.  When you so generously donate diapers to needy folks in your community, consider adding a donation to a food pantry as well.

I have always been skeptical about food stamps, welfare, government assistance.  It seems like a huge drain on tax revenue, and one that should be used only in an emergency and only if the money is available.  However, there’s no denying that for many people, this is a time of emergency.  Soundbites from yesterday’s rally included stories about parents who go hungry so they can feed their kids.  People who eat one meal a day.  Elderly citizens who worked their whole lives and paid taxes, only to find their funding cut.  And what about the moms who have to choose between food and diapers?  They are doubly screwed.

I don’t have an answer for the state budget cuts.  Everyone wants their programs to stay in place, for the state to cut the budget somewhere else.  But in this case, it doesn’t seem right to take food away from hungry children.

[photo by Ashley Nobis from flickr.com]

A Date With Diapers

On May 1, the Los Angeles chapter of Help a Mother Out threw a Date Night Cocktail Party in Encino, CA.  Hosted by myself,  Julia from Safety Graphic Fun and LA Metblogs, and Tania from Pure Natural Diva who also opened up her home to us, the evening featured wine and snacks by Fresh and Easy, a selection of Tillamook cheeses, and healthy iced teas and soft drinks from Steaz.

My first take-home message from this event is that we collected 3,284 diapers and 1,000 wipes.  The men and women of our community are incredibly generous, showing that even if they don’t have children, they understand how horrible it can be to be a baby without diapers.  I’m pleased to have given people the opportunity to have a great night out while also contributing to a good cause.

Another lesson learned – this was the easiest party I ever put together.  I’m so glad I was healthy enough to attend!  I used Event Brite to manage invitations and RSVP’s and the guest list.  I highly recommend having co-hosts and throwing your next party at someone else’s house.  Having two other well-connected women involved meant three times the promotion, and a division of hosting duties throughout the evening.  Each of us was free to work the room.

The pre-packaged foods from Fresh & Easy were simple to plate and present, and the cheese – well, all we did was slice some cheese and put it out on platters with assorted accompaniments.  Keeping to the wine theme meant a streamlined bar.  Tania is all about conservation and recycling, so we didn’t use any paper products.  To that end, she had hired someone to help clear plates and glasses and keep freshly washed ones coming.


Yvonne and Todd Condes, Sarah Auerswald, and Stacy Surabian - photo by Laura Clark

...and there's Laura Clark, right, with Florinda Pendley-Vasquez

The guests were able to mix and mingle and talk with each other without shouting because the groovy music, provided by DJ Brian Klotz, was kept at a level that entertained without drowning out all other sound.  For additional entertainment, we had a few hours in the Game Truck, where party-goers bowled, raced, or rocked out with Rock Band.

The turnout was fantastic, with few no-shows.  I was happy to see many of my fellow Los Angeles Moms bloggers in attendance, lots of friends, and lots of new and interesting people, too.  The fact that we kept the guest list to 50 or under (not age, number) meant that people were able to have real conversations.  The last guest didn’t leave until close to 11:30 PM.  It all goes to show you that these Valley moms and their friends can still party, yo.

But we party with a purpose.


Julia, Kim, and Tania - photo by Sarah Auerswald

Thank you!

Learn, Knit, Give

Inspired by the event that started it all, the Tucson contingent of Help A Mother Out organized a Learn-to-Knit Party Fundraiser for the Diaper Bank of Southern Arizona.

On a warm May day in Tucson (most of them are) a motley, but enthusiastic group gathered to try their hand at this time honored craft. Our regional non-profit hospital, Tucson Medical Center, provided not only a fine setting, but also the yarn and needles meaning all donations went to the Diaper Bank.

Along with enough donations to purchase 2,700 size 4 diapers, a whole bunch of awareness, ideas and volunteers for future events were raised as a result of this event.
In the works as a direct result of this event:

A learn-to-crochet party for Fall
A karaoke party (one pack of diapers to enter, another if you refuse to sing)
Diaper drives at local schools and university departments
Diaper drive at Cinema La Placita

Along with TMC’s support, the following generously supplied fabulous door prizes:
Velvet Glass
Kiwi Knitting
Sparkle and Charm
Hillary Rosenfeld LMT
Erin Debenport

Many thanks all!